Comments on: Clues a guy is just looking for a booty call http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2006/09/29/signs-a-guy-is-just-looking-for-a-booty-call/ The Dating Goddess's Lessons, Stories & Insights for Yummy Midlife Dating Thu, 26 Nov 2009 06:56:45 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Sinead http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2006/09/29/signs-a-guy-is-just-looking-for-a-booty-call/#comment-19225 Sinead Thu, 03 Sep 2009 02:06:11 +0000 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2006/09/29/signs-a-guy-is-just-looking-for-a-booty-call/#comment-19225 In response to what lisa said...this guy has obviously changed from the sweetheart he was over 20 years ago. People change as they get older through what they experience..making most people sensible wiser human beings and the rest regress into becoming more insensitive and withdrawn people. This man you met years ago might as well like you said be going through a tough time after his divorce..and his then wife has obviously had a major effect on him. Maybe he doesnt trust women much anymore? Or maybe hes so concerned with his own life and problems that he doesnt consider how you feel when hes constantly avoiding your questions?....just my opinion. Anyways, im only 19 and i have a feeling a lot of the readers are going to think "oh this girls got so much to learn in life,what would she know?"...i know enough about how misleading young men can be when it comes to wanting to find one decent enough to go out with. Earlier this year i broke up with my boyfriend of 3years..everyone told me that i would never ever find a guy like him again as he was so in love with me and treated me like a princess. This was true, but i thought that id be sure to find at least another sensitive and caring boyfriend.How hard could it be? 7 months later im still single and sick to the bone of guys only wanting to get into my knickers,all they see is sex in me..im attractive and get attention when i go out..dress appropriately. They all try their luck. Flattering it was at first, now its so disheartening that they dont want to get to know me, and dont realise that im a cool person with a fun loving personality. Its a no win situation,where if i fool myself into thinking a guy is genuine and spend the night with him, i end up with an emotional scar of "what did i do wrong? why is he ignoring me now, when he could at least show the respect of saying hi or a civil conversation?" and on the other hand if i say no to sleeping with a guy because i would like for us to get to know each other better, he takes a running jump and vanishes off the face of the earth. Ive been fooled enough in these 7 months with 1 guy especially, telling me he loved me and wanted us to go out, only to find out he was leading me on and was only joking about that. Goes to show,all he was looking for was sex and I never had sex with him thank god, intuition worked then, but he made an utter fool out of me. He is a player and i know how to look for this type of guy now, lesson learned. My experiences so far have made me cynical and i try not to categorise all men the same due to fault of my own poor judgement, but it makes finding the right guy look like a life-long assault course...exhausted from it all when you reach the finish line! Just shows men are like are like roses..you just have to watch out for the p***ks! In response to what lisa said…this guy has obviously changed from the sweetheart he was over 20 years ago. People change as they get older through what they experience..making most people sensible wiser human beings and the rest regress into becoming more insensitive and withdrawn people. This man you met years ago might as well like you said be going through a tough time after his divorce..and his then wife has obviously had a major effect on him. Maybe he doesnt trust women much anymore? Or maybe hes so concerned with his own life and problems that he doesnt consider how you feel when hes constantly avoiding your questions?….just my opinion.
Anyways, im only 19 and i have a feeling a lot of the readers are going to think “oh this girls got so much to learn in life,what would she know?”…i know enough about how misleading young men can be when it comes to wanting to find one decent enough to go out with. Earlier this year i broke up with my boyfriend of 3years..everyone told me that i would never ever find a guy like him again as he was so in love with me and treated me like a princess. This was true, but i thought that id be sure to find at least another sensitive and caring boyfriend.How hard could it be? 7 months later im still single and sick to the bone of guys only wanting to get into my knickers,all they see is sex in me..im attractive and get attention when i go out..dress appropriately. They all try their luck. Flattering it was at first, now its so disheartening that they dont want to get to know me, and dont realise that im a cool person with a fun loving personality. Its a no win situation,where if i fool myself into thinking a guy is genuine and spend the night with him, i end up with an emotional scar of “what did i do wrong? why is he ignoring me now, when he could at least show the respect of saying hi or a civil conversation?” and on the other hand if i say no to sleeping with a guy because i would like for us to get to know each other better, he takes a running jump and vanishes off the face of the earth. Ive been fooled enough in these 7 months with 1 guy especially, telling me he loved me and wanted us to go out, only to find out he was leading me on and was only joking about that. Goes to show,all he was looking for was sex and I never had sex with him thank god, intuition worked then, but he made an utter fool out of me. He is a player and i know how to look for this type of guy now, lesson learned. My experiences so far have made me cynical and i try not to categorise all men the same due to fault of my own poor judgement, but it makes finding the right guy look like a life-long assault course…exhausted from it all when you reach the finish line! Just shows men are like are like roses..you just have to watch out for the p***ks!

]]> By: Shirely http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2006/09/29/signs-a-guy-is-just-looking-for-a-booty-call/#comment-19130 Shirely Wed, 01 Jul 2009 13:17:03 +0000 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2006/09/29/signs-a-guy-is-just-looking-for-a-booty-call/#comment-19130 Wow. This is truely honest...I do agree with most of the comments and that yeah it is hard getting back on track after you've realized the signs match up to what you didn't want to match up in the first place. Being a booty call is something im sure no one wants to be, and over the years you realize "well it was kind of nice that he wanted me as a booty call", not in a regretful I - should- have -went -along with- it- kinda- way, but more of a form of flattery. :) of course I sound insane but that's what many people fail to do, look at life as a big compliment and move on. They say you learn from your mistakes but a person can only make so many mistakes . Right?? On a more personal view, I have had struggles in life, as im sure many of you have as well, but even so I firmly believe everything happens for a reason and if I hadn't been a booty call I wouln't know that the love of my life was there waiting for me to lean on him. Life goes on, take the struggles as a way of knowing your human, your alive. God bless :) Wow. This is truely honest…I do agree with most of the comments and that yeah it is hard getting back on track after you’ve realized the signs match up to what you didn’t want to match up in the first place. Being a booty call is something im sure no one wants to be, and over the years you realize “well it was kind of nice that he wanted me as a booty call”, not in a regretful I – should- have -went -along with- it- kinda- way, but more of a form of flattery. :) of course I sound insane but that’s what many people fail to do, look at life as a big compliment and move on. They say you learn from your mistakes but a person can only make so many mistakes . Right?? On a more personal view, I have had struggles in life, as im sure many of you have as well, but even so I firmly believe everything happens for a reason and if I hadn’t been a booty call I wouln’t know that the love of my life was there waiting for me to lean on him. Life goes on, take the struggles as a way of knowing your human, your alive. God bless :)

]]> By: Lisa http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2006/09/29/signs-a-guy-is-just-looking-for-a-booty-call/#comment-18482 Lisa Tue, 03 Feb 2009 01:23:48 +0000 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2006/09/29/signs-a-guy-is-just-looking-for-a-booty-call/#comment-18482 43 years should be old enough to know better. Let me explain. This is quit unusual. I knew someone in my teen age years, who asked me to go steady, till my dad broke us up. Over the years, I thought so highly of him that every man I have ever dated had something in common with him, rather unconsiously on my part, even if it was as vague as his proportions and hair color (I was an art major). Unfortunately, none of them were really like him. Finally, a close friend convinced me that I should contact him. I have been considering just that for years. He's living in a foreign contry, recently divorced, teaching. We even exchanged some rather hot photo's and been emailing each other for almost a year. He told me in his first email that he would visit soon. That was last year. I've noticed that some of my questions go unanswered. He suggested talking on Skype, then seemed to forget all about it. I've given him the benifit of the doubt. Considering his painful divoce, I wanted to be there for him, care about him. I don't want him hurt, even if he is leading me on. I don't want to rush him or give a bad impression. So far, he has put off visiting at least three times, but won't let me help him out. Now his emails have sort of slowed down and gotten impersonal. I realize everyone works hard and is tired. Maybe I'm being too forward, but ten months is a long time to wait to see someone and I am waiting, not dating. Last weekend, I emailed and asked him point blank if I could call him. I asked him to email me back and let me know. No response. I know, he's busy or climbing a mountain or stuck in a tsunami or just hasn't checked his email lately. Biggest fear is that he's married and I'm a big joke to him, but I know him. He's so good looking and such a sweet heart, I can't imagine women ignoring him. Even at age 14 he had the biggest heart and was the best sholder to cry on when my dog died (I was 15 at the time) and I had just met him. I won't pursue if he's not responding, but I sure do feel uncomfortable. I've backed off several times and heard from him via email later, only to find out he had some exotic excuse. I only hope he really is ok and happy. Other than that, I think I'd better give this one his space as we live on different continents and I don't want to mess up his equilibrium. Any thoughts? 43 years should be old enough to know better. Let me explain. This is quit unusual. I knew someone in my teen age years, who asked me to go steady, till my dad broke us up. Over the years, I thought so highly of him that every man I have ever dated had something in common with him, rather unconsiously on my part, even if it was as vague as his proportions and hair color (I was an art major). Unfortunately, none of them were really like him. Finally, a close friend convinced me that I should contact him. I have been considering just that for years. He’s living in a foreign contry, recently divorced, teaching. We even exchanged some rather hot photo’s and been emailing each other for almost a year. He told me in his first email that he would visit soon. That was last year. I’ve noticed that some of my questions go unanswered. He suggested talking on Skype, then seemed to forget all about it. I’ve given him the benifit of the doubt. Considering his painful divoce, I wanted to be there for him, care about him. I don’t want him hurt, even if he is leading me on. I don’t want to rush him or give a bad impression. So far, he has put off visiting at least three times, but won’t let me help him out. Now his emails have sort of slowed down and gotten impersonal. I realize everyone works hard and is tired. Maybe I’m being too forward, but ten months is a long time to wait to see someone and I am waiting, not dating.

Last weekend, I emailed and asked him point blank if I could call him. I asked him to email me back and let me know. No response. I know, he’s busy or climbing a mountain or stuck in a tsunami or just hasn’t checked his email lately. Biggest fear is that he’s married and I’m a big joke to him, but I know him. He’s so good looking and such a sweet heart, I can’t imagine women ignoring him. Even at age 14 he had the biggest heart and was the best sholder to cry on when my dog died (I was 15 at the time) and I had just met him. I won’t pursue if he’s not responding, but I sure do feel uncomfortable. I’ve backed off several times and heard from him via email later, only to find out he had some exotic excuse. I only hope he really is ok and happy. Other than that, I think I’d better give this one his space as we live on different continents and I don’t want to mess up his equilibrium. Any thoughts?

]]> By: krystle http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2006/09/29/signs-a-guy-is-just-looking-for-a-booty-call/#comment-17112 krystle Thu, 13 Mar 2008 20:01:00 +0000 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2006/09/29/signs-a-guy-is-just-looking-for-a-booty-call/#comment-17112 No, Chati. Him being drunk like that brings out his real feelings. He just wanted sex. So don't ignore the signs over. If you have to question a guys motives at any point or time, then he is exactly what you r thinkin. No, Chati. Him being drunk like that brings out his real feelings. He just wanted sex. So don’t ignore the signs over. If you have to question a guys motives at any point or time, then he is exactly what you r thinkin.

]]> By: Chati http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2006/09/29/signs-a-guy-is-just-looking-for-a-booty-call/#comment-15791 Chati Tue, 11 Dec 2007 14:01:53 +0000 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2006/09/29/signs-a-guy-is-just-looking-for-a-booty-call/#comment-15791 I met a guy last weekend at a party and he seemed really nice. We chatted for hours and he took my phone number saying that he'd cal me during the week to arrange for us to meet up. Much to my disappointment he called me last night at 4am, obviously quite drunk asking if I would come out for a few hours!! lol What??!!. I was half asleep and actually thought that I was dreaming. From what I can recall I told him in no uncertain terms that I wasn't that kind of operator and if he wanted any kind of response from me he would have to call me during daylight hours and when he was sober, hung up on him and switched my cell off.I was so disappointed when I woke up this morning to discover that it wasn't in fact a dream and that my 'nice guy' had turned out to be a real creep. What do you think? Is this a forgivable faux pas? I met a guy last weekend at a party and he seemed really nice. We chatted for hours and he took my phone number saying that he’d cal me during the week to arrange for us to meet up. Much to my disappointment he called me last night at 4am, obviously quite drunk asking if I would come out for a few hours!! lol What??!!. I was half asleep and actually thought that I was dreaming. From what I can recall I told him in no uncertain terms that I wasn’t that kind of operator and if he wanted any kind of response from me he would have to call me during daylight hours and when he was sober, hung up on him and switched my cell off.I was so disappointed when I woke up this morning to discover that it wasn’t in fact a dream and that my ‘nice guy’ had turned out to be a real creep. What do you think? Is this a forgivable faux pas?

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