Comments on: Are you arguing your limitations? http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/04/are-you-arguing-your-limitations/ The Dating Goddess's Lessons, Stories & Insights for Yummy Midlife Dating Thu, 26 Nov 2009 06:56:45 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Love and Romance » Blog Archive » DG on AM Northwest http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/04/are-you-arguing-your-limitations/#comment-4552 Love and Romance » Blog Archive » DG on AM Northwest Thu, 12 Apr 2007 07:18:19 +0000 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/04/are-you-arguing-your-limitations/#comment-4552 [...] take on why midlife women undersold themselves on their dating profiles. They’d read “Are you arguing your limitations?” among other postings, liked what I had to say, so wanted me to share my thoughts with their [...] [...] take on why midlife women undersold themselves on their dating profiles. They’d read “Are you arguing your limitations?” among other postings, liked what I had to say, so wanted me to share my thoughts with their [...]

]]> By: DG on AM Northwest « Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/04/are-you-arguing-your-limitations/#comment-4551 DG on AM Northwest « Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 Thu, 12 Apr 2007 07:08:35 +0000 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/04/are-you-arguing-your-limitations/#comment-4551 [...] take on why midlife women undersold themselves on their dating profiles. They’d read “Are you arguing your limitations?” among other postings, liked what I had to say, so wanted me to share my thoughts with their [...] [...] take on why midlife women undersold themselves on their dating profiles. They’d read “Are you arguing your limitations?” among other postings, liked what I had to say, so wanted me to share my thoughts with their [...]

]]> By: Gatti http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/04/are-you-arguing-your-limitations/#comment-4257 Gatti Wed, 04 Apr 2007 22:45:39 +0000 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/04/are-you-arguing-your-limitations/#comment-4257 Sharon, I live in a village with about 1000 people and there were actually several men in the village and in the surrounding couple of villages that I could have dated, some of them expressed interest. After some years of being in a verbally abusive situation I just wanted to go out on some nice dates (and maybe eventually meet someone I really liked) so I went with internet dating because the pool is bigger and had a series of perfectly pleasant dates and all but one would have wanted to see me again, but I chose not to continue because there was not enough chemistry. I'd written in my journal what sort of man I wanted and I met a man who exactly fits, and more than I could have ever imagined. And I fit what he wanted. Chance? Or being clear about yourself and your desires? I was sure that sooner or later I would meet someone I liked, in the meantime I wanted to go on nice dates, which happened. Oh, and he's four years younger than me! Sharon, I live in a village with about 1000 people and there were actually several men in the village and in the surrounding couple of villages that I could have dated, some of them expressed interest.

After some years of being in a verbally abusive situation I just wanted to go out on some nice dates (and maybe eventually meet someone I really liked) so I went with internet dating because the pool is bigger and had a series of perfectly pleasant dates and all but one would have wanted to see me again, but I chose not to continue because there was not enough chemistry. I’d written in my journal what sort of man I wanted and I met a man who exactly fits, and more than I could have ever imagined. And I fit what he wanted.

Chance? Or being clear about yourself and your desires? I was sure that sooner or later I would meet someone I liked, in the meantime I wanted to go on nice dates, which happened.

Oh, and he’s four years younger than me!

]]> By: NYSharon http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/04/are-you-arguing-your-limitations/#comment-4254 NYSharon Wed, 04 Apr 2007 22:27:39 +0000 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/04/are-you-arguing-your-limitations/#comment-4254 Hi DG I think we say those things to ourselves because it hurts less than taking the risk in expressing interest and being rejected. In the long run we hurt ourselves more. I am reading “The Secret” right now. It has a very similar philosophy in that positive thoughts attract positive things. I am confident about my looks however I have found that men do look to date younger from my last year’s on-line experience. I found on line dating disappointing. I have been known to say “I will never meet anyone”. I have been working on thinking that the universe is wide open with any number of men who would find me wonderful. (Unfortunately, I live in a small town and the single dating pool is small to non existent.) What I have found is that younger men are much more interested in me than men my own age! That is good for my ego but not for a long term relationship. I am doing all the things they say to do to put your self out there, and I am expecting soon I will bump right into him! As soon as my daughter graduates from high school, I am out of this town. Hi DG
I think we say those things to ourselves because it hurts less than taking the risk in expressing interest and being rejected. In the long run we hurt ourselves more. I am reading “The Secret” right now. It has a very similar philosophy in that positive thoughts attract positive things. I am confident about my looks however I have found that men do look to date younger from my last year’s on-line experience. I found on line dating disappointing. I have been known to say “I will never meet anyone”. I have been working on thinking that the universe is wide open with any number of men who would find me wonderful. (Unfortunately, I live in a small town and the single dating pool is small to non existent.) What I have found is that younger men are much more interested in me than men my own age! That is good for my ego but not for a long term relationship. I am doing all the things they say to do to put your self out there, and I am expecting soon I will bump right into him! As soon as my daughter graduates from high school, I am out of this town.

]]> By: Gatti http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/04/are-you-arguing-your-limitations/#comment-4249 Gatti Wed, 04 Apr 2007 18:15:42 +0000 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/04/are-you-arguing-your-limitations/#comment-4249 I've been going through some drawings and papers from about 5 years ago when I was coming out of a fairly devastating depression. One was a card I used to have pinned to the wall which says "No Buts!". That's about it in an nutshell, I think. My ex was the master of "Yeah, but...". I find myself doing it sometimes too, though I'm making a real effort not to. And now I have the most supportive, understanding, helpful, but-less (!) man on the planet who thinks I'm so wonderful even with my jiggly bits and my fine hair and my occasional burps and rumbles and my forgetfullness with names of things and all the other little foibles that make me me, that I know that my best self comes out when I'm with him, my honest, funny, creative, intelligent self. What a relief to have her back again and to have her appreciated! I’ve been going through some drawings and papers from about 5 years ago when I was coming out of a fairly devastating depression. One was a card I used to have pinned to the wall which says “No Buts!”. That’s about it in an nutshell, I think.

My ex was the master of “Yeah, but…”. I find myself doing it sometimes too, though I’m making a real effort not to. And now I have the most supportive, understanding, helpful, but-less (!) man on the planet who thinks I’m so wonderful even with my jiggly bits and my fine hair and my occasional burps and rumbles and my forgetfullness with names of things and all the other little foibles that make me me, that I know that my best self comes out when I’m with him, my honest, funny, creative, intelligent self. What a relief to have her back again and to have her appreciated!

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