Comments on: Do you love how he loves you? http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/do-you-love-how-he-loves-you/ The Dating Goddess's Lessons, Stories & Insights for Yummy Midlife Dating Thu, 26 Nov 2009 06:56:45 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Love and Romance » Blog Archive » Does he “get” you? http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/do-you-love-how-he-loves-you/#comment-5273 Love and Romance » Blog Archive » Does he “get” you? Sat, 05 May 2007 07:14:08 +0000 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/do-you-love-how-he-loves-you/#comment-5273 [...] what motivates them, what their wounds and triggers are, and what actions show you care. In “Do you love how he loves you?” we explored how to discuss how you show and feel love. When you “get” someone [...] [...] what motivates them, what their wounds and triggers are, and what actions show you care. In “Do you love how he loves you?” we explored how to discuss how you show and feel love. When you “get” someone [...]

]]> By: Does he "get" you? « Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/do-you-love-how-he-loves-you/#comment-5272 Does he "get" you? « Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 Sat, 05 May 2007 07:07:06 +0000 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/do-you-love-how-he-loves-you/#comment-5272 [...] what motivates them, what their wounds and triggers are, and what actions show you care. In “Do you love how he loves you?” we explored how to discuss how you show and feel love. When you “get” someone [...] [...] what motivates them, what their wounds and triggers are, and what actions show you care. In “Do you love how he loves you?” we explored how to discuss how you show and feel love. When you “get” someone [...]

]]> By: Gatti http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/do-you-love-how-he-loves-you/#comment-4571 Gatti Thu, 12 Apr 2007 14:04:17 +0000 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/do-you-love-how-he-loves-you/#comment-4571 My guy thanks me for small treats or favours, notices what I'm wearing, pays me compliments, remembers things I've said I liked. It's wonderful. I know he is moved by my thoughtful gestures (towards himself and, especially and surprisingly, those I do towards others), little touches and signs of affection, and when I'm calm and happy. This is a big inducement to remain calm and happy! "Mindfulness" is what I call paying attention to these things. My guy thanks me for small treats or favours, notices what I’m wearing, pays me compliments, remembers things I’ve said I liked. It’s wonderful.

I know he is moved by my thoughtful gestures (towards himself and, especially and surprisingly, those I do towards others), little touches and signs of affection, and when I’m calm and happy. This is a big inducement to remain calm and happy!

“Mindfulness” is what I call paying attention to these things.

]]> By: NYSharon http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/do-you-love-how-he-loves-you/#comment-4480 NYSharon Tue, 10 Apr 2007 20:17:53 +0000 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/do-you-love-how-he-loves-you/#comment-4480 Good post. Made me reflect on my marriage too. One of the things I wanted was for my husband (now ex) to bring me a cup of coffee in the shower or bed in the morning to help me get started. He was up first and getting his own. He refused to do this for me and it seems silly now but his defiance was symbolic of all the others needs I expressed and he either couldn't or wouldn't try to meet. Sometimes we let pride get the better of us. It creates distance in a relationship. Communicating is the first step, the parties have to make an effort to do those things after for it to be complete. Good post. Made me reflect on my marriage too. One of the things I wanted was for my husband (now ex) to bring me a cup of coffee in the shower or bed in the morning to help me get started. He was up first and getting his own. He refused to do this for me and it seems silly now but his defiance was symbolic of all the others needs I expressed and he either couldn’t or wouldn’t try to meet. Sometimes we let pride get the better of us. It creates distance in a relationship. Communicating is the first step, the parties have to make an effort to do those things after for it to be complete.

]]> By: Fred G http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/do-you-love-how-he-loves-you/#comment-4471 Fred G Tue, 10 Apr 2007 18:25:23 +0000 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/04/08/do-you-love-how-he-loves-you/#comment-4471 OK, this is going in my bag of tricks when that significant other is there. And I will check out that book as well. Thanks for the posting. OK, this is going in my bag of tricks when that significant other is there. And I will check out that book as well.

Thanks for the posting.

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