Comments on: “How many sexual partners have you had?” http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/10/08/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/ The Dating Goddess's Lessons, Stories & Insights for Yummy Midlife Dating Thu, 26 Nov 2009 06:56:45 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Brittnany http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/10/08/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/#comment-18136 Brittnany Mon, 03 Nov 2008 23:09:10 +0000 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/10/08/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/#comment-18136 I do hate this question but I feel like I need to ask it. I've often thought about not needing to bring it up. I've also thought that you learn a lot from a person and their previous situations. I just asked the guy I've been dating. I like him but I want to know how he is with relationships and women. Pretty much Im trying to figure out if he just breezes through the heard. Obviously if the number is high, I think he rushes into things or isn't good in long-term relationships. If someone tried to avoid this question with me, I would automatically assume the worst. Your screwed if you do answer and your screwed if you don't. Now things like what you liked to do with you exes or who was your favorite are all no-no's. specific details are never good on a relationship. I do hate this question but I feel like I need to ask it. I’ve often thought about not needing to bring it up. I’ve also thought that you learn a lot from a person and their previous situations. I just asked the guy I’ve been dating. I like him but I want to know how he is with relationships and women. Pretty much Im trying to figure out if he just breezes through the heard. Obviously if the number is high, I think he rushes into things or isn’t good in long-term relationships. If someone tried to avoid this question with me, I would automatically assume the worst. Your screwed if you do answer and your screwed if you don’t.

Now things like what you liked to do with you exes or who was your favorite are all no-no’s. specific details are never good on a relationship.

]]> By: August http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/10/08/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/#comment-17202 August Sun, 23 Mar 2008 07:16:55 +0000 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/10/08/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/#comment-17202 I have been fighting with myself on this one. Curiosity has me so desperate to know.. but at the same time I wouldn't want to give away my number because I'm not proud of it at all. Disease is a big concern, especially when you're gay. You may trust your lover but everyone makes mistakes. I figure we'll just go get tested together to ease that worry. Our sexual escapades have taken an exciting turn lately and we both regretted it and worried after the fun was over... That's not a good feeling. So as far as numbers go, if I find that I still need the information later on I will ask if I know that our relationship is strong enough that we're not going to hate the other for fucking up (and around) in the past. I have been fighting with myself on this one. Curiosity has me so desperate to know.. but at the same time I wouldn’t want to give away my number because I’m not proud of it at all.

Disease is a big concern, especially when you’re gay. You may trust your lover but everyone makes mistakes. I figure we’ll just go get tested together to ease that worry. Our sexual escapades have taken an exciting turn lately and we both regretted it and worried after the fun was over… That’s not a good feeling.

So as far as numbers go, if I find that I still need the information later on I will ask if I know that our relationship is strong enough that we’re not going to hate the other for fucking up (and around) in the past.

]]> By: bookyone http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/10/08/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/#comment-13141 bookyone Wed, 10 Oct 2007 07:10:05 +0000 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/10/08/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/#comment-13141 Hi DG, For me this falls under the category of "don't ask, don't tell" also, as IMHO it can only lead to problems down the road, (been there, done that, gotten the T shirt). :) Nowadays, I answer this question with a smile and a quick change of subject. Unless the guy is really dense, he usually takes the hint. And if he continues to dog the subject? Then I know for sure that's he's either dense and/or insecure, and guys with either of these less than desirable traits are not my cup of tea. Best wishes from bookyone :) Hi DG,

For me this falls under the category of “don’t ask, don’t tell” also, as IMHO it can only lead to problems down the road, (been there, done that, gotten the T shirt). :) Nowadays, I answer this question with a smile and a quick change of subject. Unless the guy is really dense, he usually takes the hint. And if he continues to dog the subject? Then I know for sure that’s he’s either dense and/or insecure, and guys with either of these less than desirable traits are not my cup of tea.

Best wishes from bookyone :)

]]> By: hunter http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/10/08/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/#comment-13136 hunter Wed, 10 Oct 2007 03:20:50 +0000 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/10/08/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/#comment-13136 ...mostly, men that ask, "how many partners before me?" are somewhat inexperienced.....they may be looking for answers... …mostly, men that ask, “how many partners before me?” are somewhat inexperienced…..they may be looking for answers…

]]> By: Christine http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/10/08/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/#comment-13133 Christine Wed, 10 Oct 2007 00:20:00 +0000 http://datinggoddess.wordpress.com/2007/10/08/how-many-sexual-partners-have-you-had/#comment-13133 I, too, see talking about sex as an important part of a relationship. I'll talk about sex, no problem. But talking sex and devulging the number of partners I've had is two different things. Nobody's business who, what, where, when, why with any other guy! I, too, see talking about sex as an important part of a relationship. I’ll talk about sex, no problem. But talking sex and devulging the number of partners I’ve had is two different things. Nobody’s business who, what, where, when, why with any other guy!

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